People I hate

Do any of you out there have a friend or two, probably someone you've known for some time, probably someone you met at college, some frend out there, who you just, you know, hate?

I do.

Now, it's tough saying you hate a friend, because well, that's just this side of contradictory, how could you hate someone and also call him a friend? Well, here's how.

You meet the person, maybe you have the same class freshman year, maybe he lives the floor below you in the dorm, maybe you know a girl and she starts dating this kid and he's accepted into the group. The relationship grows, as it would with any other friend (the ones you don't hate)- he invites you to a superbowl party, you see him at social gatherings, etc. You're certainly under the impression that he counts you as a friend, and so you think to yourself, sure, why wouldn't I think of him in the same capacity. At this point the relationship plateaus. Maybe you've graduated, or moved away, perhaps you don't see each other as often, maybe only online occassionally or perhaps at a holiday gathering. That's where you start to realize. You might be having a better time at this holiday party if maybe this "friend" of yours wasn't there. Maybe it's you, maybe he's just having an off night, but you inexplicably find him a constant annoyance. Maybe then you start seeing him a little more often, not as frequently as back in the day, but more than once-in-a-great-while, and you continue to realize, you don't really like him as much as you expect to like a friend, as much as you thought you liked him while he was away, you find this perplexing, but not overly so.

It's a very gradual process. You've known this person for four years, lived with them, worked with them, hung out with them, and so on, and yet, and yet, you are more and more aware of how much they get on your nerves, of how, at this point, there's no way you'd start up a friendship with a person like this. So why do you consider him a friend now? Has he changed? Have you changed? No. It's just that way back when you were open and friendly and not really paying that much attention to the people you welcomed into your circle. Now, you're older, more experienced, and you know that there are people that, while they may be good people in their own right, are people you hate. And guess what. You hate this kid.

Not that there's anything wrong with that. You've just come to the full realization of your feelings toward this individual, and also possibly his girlfriend who is the reason you know him in the first place. Nothing wrong with hating people. So maybe you have this person you know, and maybe you've known him for a while, and maybe you see him off and on now, and maybe he's more and more unlike people you want as friends every time you see him, and maybe his name's John, and maybe you can't stand the sight of him, and maybe well, maybe it's time you delete that name on your buddy list, and maybe stop taking his calls, and maybe just let this guy fade away. Because, man do you hate him.

The end.

-Tom
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